Oh, the never ending winter sickness. As soon as temperatures go below 15 degrees I can almost be certain that daygaming every day, or any other outdoors activity, is going to result in me getting the sniffles, headaches and generally feeling like shit. Countless doctors have not been able to tell me why this is.
I got sick last week, and was forced to take some days off. Frustrating. So instead of going out every day doing at least 10 sets, my average has been about 5 sets per day. This has taken away some of my momentum, but also made my vibe slightly better as I’m not emotionally burned out from incessant approaching.
Currently I have a couple of different girls I’m texting with. We’ll call them:
Saanvi, a petite Indian cutie from London has fallen off the radar since she seems busy and didn’t get back to me like she said she would about making plans on Thursday.
Viktoria is Russian/Greek/Georgian/Ukrainian/Whatever the fuck, has a hot skinny body and is playing hard to get. I have a feeling she’s just enjoying the ego boost of having a guy chasing her. We set up a date for Sunday but she flaked on it, so I’ll vacuum for a few days. Texting has been flirtatious and fun.
Violeta is a fresh number close. Swiss/Latin American girl who studies design in Cambridge. She doesn’t seem super down but we have been texting back and forth quite a lot. We’ll see what happens.
Alia was a girl I was certain would come out for a date, but she postponed the date once and then said she got sick. I’ll ping her someday soon.
The most positive thing right now is the mind shift that I’m going through in my game. This mind shift has had three different components:
- Stopping the technical micro management
- Starting to trust the process and not chasing individual results
- Embracing the discomfort I might feel in set
Instead of focusing on technique and the physical movements that constitute a good pick up, I’ve gone back to focusing on the feeling, the vibe of the set, and trying to make it as good as possible. A good pickup artist isn’t a robot that micro manages technique. A good pickup artist has strong emotional control and entitlement, along with an underlying understanding of the technique of pickup.
I’m starting to let go of the individual results, the individual girls I’m trying to seduce and just putting my focus on taking the correct action. I’m starting to stop getting upset because of the success my wingmen are having and bad days that I might be having, instead focusing on what I can do to increase results in the long term. This naturally decreases neediness and outcome dependence.
I’ve felt uncomfortable with doing pickup in London largely throughout my stay here. Before, I would fight it, but I’m realising now that the more I fight it, the bigger the discomfort is going to be. The trick is to go into the discomfort and just accepting it. With time, the discomfort will be reduced.
I can feel my cold is going to be over in a few days. When I’m well again, the plan is to listen to my body and to not ignore tell tale signs that I’m getting sick so I won’t get knocked out by a cold again. Until then, I’ll go out for a short session every day to get as much practice in as I can.